Can We Fkn Talk?
Have you ever had that moment in Motherhood where you’ve wondered, “Why did no one tell me this BEFORE I had a baby?” Well I’m here to change all that by having the conversations you wish you had before becoming a parent.
I’m Ashleigh Scrivener, a Connective Parenting and Mindset Coach passionate about supporting Mums to put themselves first so that you have the capacity to respond to your child’s needs and connect not only to yourself but your kids as well. With over 10 years in the early childhood education and care industry, I know a thing or two about early childhood development, children’s behaviour and supporting families through the early years, but when I became a parent myself, I felt like a fish out of water. I love supporting Mums find more ease in their parenting, personal and professional lives while saying goodbye to Mum guilt for good.
This show will feature conversations, stories, helpful tips and parenting support from guest experts and parents with the goal of sharing publicly the conversations every Mum needs to hear.
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Can We Fkn Talk?
031 | Solo Episode - Why Do So Many Women Hold Onto People Pleasing - Until They Become a Mum?
This episode was sparked by a comment from a TikTok comment which said, “I stopped saying yes all the time and masking so much - and now I have no friends.” Ooft. I felt that. And my honest response? Were they ever really your friends? Or did they just benefit from you always keeping the peace?
Today, we’re diving into what happens when you stop people pleasing - especially after becoming a Mum - and realise that the “connections” you had might’ve been built on a version of you that was just trying to survive. Because Motherhood? It cracks you wide open. You meet a new version of yourself - protective, powerful, real - and suddenly, all the shit you used to tolerate? You can’t anymore.
I’m unpacking what people pleasing actually is (spoiler: it’s not kindness, it’s a mask), where the conditioning starts, and why so many women feel completely alone when they finally stop performing for acceptance. We’ll explore the grief, the loneliness, the “WTF is happening to my friendships?” moments - and more importantly, what’s waiting for you on the other side.
This isn’t about staying small to keep the peace. This is about reclaiming your voice, your needs, your space - and building connection from a place of truth, not performance.
And if you’re in the thick of this shift and feeling the ache of lost friendships or disconnection, I’ve got something for you: My Free Connection Guide. It’s the starting point to rebuild connection - not just with others, but with yourself.
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